If you don’t already know this, I am the most positive person I know. My dad introduced personal development into my life and one of the first things he taught me, was to always have a positive outlook on life. However it is not difficult to be positive when you’re happy and feeling motivated but what do you do when you’re down and out and all you want to do is curl up under your blanket and feel sorry for yourself.
You need to realize that inner strength comes from doing things, when you just don’t feel like it. But this is easier said than done. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication to develop daily habits that will help you stay positive and motivated in life. Staying positive is not a onetime thing, you work on it day in and day out. Here’s what I do (and in some cases try to do)
Keep a journal
This is actually something I learnt from Robin Sharma. So what do you write in it and how does it keep you positive.
- Record your daily progress. What are you wins from the day before. Too often we’re so focused on what we wish to achieve, then when disappointments or failures hit, we’re floored and feel we cannot go on. However, if you record your little wins every day, you will come to realize that all those little wins add up.
- Record daily insights. When you read personal development, record important lines in your journal. What does this do? It helps to deepen the learning into your mind-set.
- Record your gratitude. Your loving family, your peak health, be grateful and record it.
- Pictures from your bucket list. Places you would like to visit, goals you would like to achieve. It’s important to use visual mind mapping.
Besides stating the obvious here, that it helps you to stay fit and lose weight, it also releases endorphins that keep you happy. I exercise 5 days a week at the gym (I have developed a slight addiction) but a minimum of 3 times would be fine to start with. I usually aim to exercise in the am, but if I miss my morning workout, then I go in the afternoon. There are days when I don’t feel like waking up to go to the gym and there are days that I feel too tired after work to even think of working out. You should seriously hear the voices in my head fighting on whether I should or shouldn’t, it really is a battle but I force myself to go and do I feel so amazing afterwards.
This is another no brainer. If you eat too much processed and sugary foods, you will find that by the afternoon, you’ve turned sluggish and tired. This in turn makes you less productive. When we lack productivity, we also feel less positive. I personally,beat myself up about my lack of productivity on my goals, which in turn leads to a mini depression and pity party. Yes fellow readers, the struggle is real. I always find though that if my breakfast and lunch options are healthy and filling, not only do I have energy in the afternoon, but I don’t reach for that chocolate bar at 3pm.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Don’t allow yourself to lose perspective when you’re stressed or when you feel like life is moving too fast. Ask yourself, is this really going to matter in 3 weeks or even 3 months
Hmmm what’s this you ask? An affirmation is a positive statement which describes a desired situation and if this statement is repeated continuously, it will eventually be impressed on the subconscious mind. This process pushes your subconscious mind to take action and move towards making the statement come true. Repeating affirmations for a few minutes and then thinking negatively, is not going to help you achieve any positive results, you need to ensure that you curb your negative mind-set.
Stay away from negative people
You know when you were in school and your mum or dad disapproved of one (or all) of your friends and told you that they weren’t the right crowd to hang out with. And although we ignored them completely because as teenagers, we always knew what was best for us, but let’s face it, 9 times outa ten, they were usually right. So, remember this. You are the average of the people you spend the most time with. Are your friends always complaining, do they have no ambition or goals, are they always gossiping about people and situations that quite frankly will not make any difference or progress to where you wish to go in life. Are they putting you down when you speak of what you wish to achieve? If so, it’s time to re-consider those friendships. Hang out with people who lift you up, not bring you down.
Add value to someone else’s life
This is something I feel so strongly about and is one of the main reasons I started Inspire you. Volunteer at a charity, spend time with people who are less fortunate then you. Help someone in need. Give advice. Contribute towards a good cause. In whatever small way you can, make someone feel special. It will warm your heart and theirs.
That’s it, my lovelies…my tips for you to start having a more positive outlook on life. Also remember, life will never ever be perfect. Accept the things you cannot change and work on the things you can.